In today’s technology, it is easier to meet someone and enter in a long distance relationship (LDR). The next thing you know, you’re now deeply in love with that person. But while there are now a lot of better ways of communication, being far from the one you love can still be very challenging, whether you are already married or still going steady.
Here in the Philippines, long distance relationships are becoming common because many Filipinos decided to work abroad, leaving their spouse or partners temporarily. Sad to say, many of them ended up separated. With that, below are 10 long distance relationship problems, and how both of you can work together to solve them before it’s too late.
# 10 Time zone difference
Difference in time zone is a common problem if you and your partner are living in different continents. There are times that one of you should suffer some sleep, just to have time to communicate with each other. So far, the only way to solve this problem is proper time management. Know the best time to talk to each other, and make the most out of it.
# 9 Lack of time to communicate
Admit it, you cannot always have time for him. Just like him, you will also be busy with other things such as work and family. But don’t worry, there are a lot of ways to make up for the lost time. Try to surprise him with gifts or e-card greeting that will help remind him how much you love him. After all, it’s always the quality that counts, that quantity.
# 8 Language barrier
Language barrier is not only a problem for lovers living in different countries, but also for those living in the same country with different dialects. In countries like the Philippines, some ldialects are hard to understand, and people find it hard to say what they really mean. But do you know that teaching each other is also bonding time? Plus of course, it’s fun to learn new things.
# 7 Insecurities
Insecurities are always present in any relationship, and is worst in long distance relationships, especially if you haven’t seen each other yet. You tend to be insecure if he really likes you because you’re fat, or you have scars on your face. The best way to solve this problem is to be yourself. If he can’t accept you as you are, then he doesn’t love you.
# 6 Growing apart
The longer you don’t see each other in person, the harder it is for both to you to adjust. Although you see him live on video, you cannot hide the fact that both of you are growing apart. There are things about you that he will not know, and you cannot explain it in words. To solve this, connect yourself in his life and listen to his stories with enthusiasm.
# 5 Running out of topics
Whether you like or not, there will be times that both of you feel that you’re running out of topics to talk about, or have no more exciting stories to share. In that cases, try to talk about things that might seem to be awkward to discuss, say sex. Yes, talking about making love and intimacy is fine, as long as both of you are mature and open-minded.
# 4 Not in the mood to talk
There will be times that one of you are already tired at work or school, and not in the mood for chatting or texting. There are also times that you just don’t feel like talking or you prefer being alone. In such cases, don’t make him guess or get worried about you. Instead, explain it to him nicely. Otherwise, he might think that you’re already falling out of love.
# 3 Lack of physical interaction
Obviously, long distance relationships suffer from physical intimacy, which is a very important factor in any romantic relationship. Lack of physical interaction tends to attract temptations and jealousy. The best way to cope up with this problem is to let your partner feel how much you miss him, and how much you wanted to be with him all the time.
# 2 Fights are more unavoidable
Couples who don’t see each other have more things to fight about than those who see each other regularly. No matter how hard you try, there is a greater possibility of miscommunication along the way. To help reduce fights, be sensitive enough to the emotions of your partner. If you are confused, ask him politely and allow him to explain his side.
# 1 Loyalty is harder to find
Long distance relationships are very prone to infidelity, and therefore loyalty is harder to find. Plus of course, it’s easier to make excuses if your partner keeps on saying he has no time for you. Therefore, you should know the vital signs that that he is most likely cheating on you. If you have already have proofs, be ready to decide if you will forgive him or not.