Lesbian Mom Writes Open Letter to Eat Bulaga Over ‘Problem Solving’ Featuring a Gay Married Man (Video)
A lesbian mom wrote a lengthy open letter to Eat Bulaga this Tuesday, May 26, 2015. The said letter, which you read below, was focused on the topic during the Problem Solving segment on Friday, May 22. You can also watch the full video of the segment below, where a gay named Diamond was featured.
To start with, Diamond (which he said was real name) said he is very proud to be a beki (gay). He said he is happy with his sexuality despite being married with three young children, with two of them are boys. He said he was already an openly gay when he met his wife, and that they are deeply in love with each other.
The gay married man said he worries people would bully his children just like he suffered when people learned that he is gay. He told segment hosts Jose Manalo and Paolo Ballesteros on what he can do to avoid such problems when they start going to school, and their classmates would tease them for having a gay dad.
“Unang una, di mawawala sa mga bata yan. Ang solusyon, ikaw. Ikaw ang unang gagawa ng solusyon. Kaya mo ba; hindi naman binabago ang pagkatao mo, beki ka pa rin, yan ang gusto mo, nagkaanak ka; pero magagawa mo ba na hindi ka na mag-gaganyan ng itsura? Pero beki ka pa rin” Jose Manalo said.
(First of all, you cannot avoid that to your childen. The solution is you; you’ll be the first one to make the solution. You don’t need to change the way you are, you are still gay, that’s what you want; you have kids. But can you change the way you look? But still, you are gay.)
“Sa medaling salita, ibalik sa closet.” Senator Tito said. (In short, go back to the closet.)
Diamond said he can do it although he knows it will be hard for me, adding that he will do it for the sake of his children. When asked if he think his sons will also be gay, he said he doesn’t think so at this moment, but he emphasized that he will still accept them anyway. The gay married man tells the hosts he has no boyfriend.
Note: To go straight to the Problem Solving segment, jump to 18:15.
Meanwhile, Cha Roque, who admitted on her open letter to Eat Bulaga that she is a single lesbian mother to an 11-year old daughter, said she watched that segment and was not happy how the show hosts handled the situation. She said going back to the closet is like saying that homosexuality is a sin.
“You made it appear like homosexuality is a disease and that he should keep it from his kids so as not to “infect” them with it. I feel sad for the guy for trusting you with what he is going through only to be treated that way. It was an immature and uneducated move.” Cha Roque wrote on Facebook.
What if the participant was a lesbian mom? Would you ask her to go back to the closet as well? Would you say the same to Aiza Seguerra if she was in the situation? I am a lesbian mom and I chose not to hide in the closet, because I love my kid.” She added, noting that lying to her daughter is the biggest betrayal.
“We (LGBT people) do not want to hide. We want to be accepted, and acceptance is different from being tolerated. It is not okay that you are only okay with us if we keep quiet. It is not okay that you coexist with us just as long as we don’t complain about how we are treated.” She further explains.
Here is the full context of the open letter of the lesbian mom to Eat Bulaga:
An Open Letter to Eat Bulaga from a Lesbian Mom
Dear Eat Bulaga,
I am Cha, a single lesbian mom to an eleven year old daughter. I’ve seen the video of your segment (Dabarkads na beki, may asawa at tatlong anak) and I was appalled at how you handled the situation: how you suggested that this guy should go back to the closet so his kids won’t be discriminated is like saying that homosexuality is a sin. You made it appear like homosexuality is a disease and that he should keep it from his kids so as not to “infect” them with it. I feel sad for the guy for trusting you with what he is going through only to be treated that way.
It was an immature and uneducated move. Eat Bulaga is an institution, you have millions of followers spanning the whole Philippines. Needless to say, the personalities in your show are influential. You even have a Senator blatantly telling this guy to go back to the closet. Don’t you have gay or lesbian colleagues or staff in your show? What if the participant was a lesbian mom? Would you ask her to go back to the closet as well? Would you say the same to Aiza Seguerra if she was in the situation?
I am a lesbian mom and I chose not to hide in the closet, because I love my kid. I don’t think she deserves to be lied to and lying to her about who I am is the biggest betrayal. You don’t hide secrets from the people you love – more so your identity. It is shows like yours and opinions like those that was expressed in your show that encourages the bullying of LGBT people and their families. It is unfair that my child got bullied because of who I am but the way I raised her equipped with with the strength to face the world bravely. It is unfair that people (like you) will judge her not for who she is, not for how she excels in school, not for her craft but for who her mom is. This is why I chose to come out of the closet and fight for our rights.
We (LGBT people) do not want to hide. We want to be accepted, and acceptance is different from being tolerated. It is not okay that you are only okay with us if we keep quiet. It is not okay that you coexist with us just as long as we don’t complain about how we are treated.
You are not in the position to tell this guy “bumalik sa closet” or “bakit kasi nag-asa-asawa” or threaten to hurt him (jokingly). You are promoting a culture of hate. You are telling the world that corrective beating up is okay to make a gay guy become manly. You are telling the world that the only key to be accepted is to hide who you truly are.
We have the right to our choices. We know who we are and you don’t have the right to tell us to be otherwise.
Judging from all the things you said here, I say I better make my child stay away from your show. I feel more secure with my kid hanging out with my gay and lesbian friends. I am more secure that she will get valuable life lessons from them and not learn rubbish. This incident just proved once again how homosexuality is far more clean than Eat Bulaga and its hosts’ opinions will ever be.
I strongly believe that if we really want have a better world to live in, we should learn to respect each other’s belief and sexuality. In my assessment of the advice of the hosts, they are encouraging people to hide their real identity from other poeple. Instead, they should advise parents to tell their children to accept reality and not to bully. It is really as simple as that.