A husband had a shock of his life, after he discovered that his wife was born a man, and only had undergone a sex change surgery. But apparently, he only learned about the truth after they have been married for 19 years, and lived together as husband and wife.
According to Belgian newspaper Het Nieuwsblad, then husband who was only identified as Jan was 44 when he met Indonesian woman named Monica in 1993. She was 27 at that time, and Jan has already two failed marriages. The couple eventually got married on the same year, and decided not to have children, to focus more on his two children.
“I feel I’ve been assaulted. I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits.” Jan was quoted telling the Het Nieuwsblad newspaper.
“Over the years she said she was taking the pill, and even during sex I never noticed anything, though now I understand why she always used a lubricant, which is apparently normal among transsexuals. She was also a fantastic cook.” The shocked husband added, noting that Monica has been using sanitary towels to pretend having menstruation.
“She was always a good mother to my children, and also a fantastic cook, though we wasn’t that great at cleaning and ironing – and now I know why!” Jan added, who only began suspicious when Monica started to act weird, and stay out late wearing ‘revealing clothes. He said he and his oldest son also heard some rumors that his wife used to be a man.
According to Jan, Monica was frequently seen in nightclubs wearing ultra-short skirts that would would reveal her abdomen. He said he also caught his wife looking at photos of young men in the Internet. Jan said that he confronted his wife one night, and that she finally admitted that she was born male, but had gone into sex reassignment operation.
In 2012, Jan has been into psychiatric treatment, and decided to file annulment. However, a Belgian judge refused to order Monica to leave their house. The devastated husband was left without a choice but to let his wife stay in his house. But because he cannot forgive her, they sleep in separate rooms, and he rarely talks to her.